The Truth...

The truth is something that some people are not prepared to face. Some people like to live in a world where they think that everything is OK and that they are this perfect parent that believes they have a right to be called a mom or a dad not realizing that they are nothing of the sort! It is a privilege being a parent! Just because you supplied some of the genetics doesn't give you the right to say you are a parent. You have to earn it! You have to show your child that you love them, you have to be there for your child everyday! You have to know your child to be a parent! A child's hero isn't the parent that is never there for them, it's the one that's providing for them, the one that's taking care of them everyday!

I am my child's best friend. I am the one that she always wants to be attached to. I'm the one that is there for her when she wakes up from a bad dream. I'm the name she calls out when she's hurt, wants a hug and kiss, or just wants to be held! I am her hero because I am the one that acts like super mom day in and day out, not because I have to but because I want to, because it makes my life more enjoyable with her in it!

I am so tired of not just men but women thinking they are a parent just because they gave some DNA to a child. No, a parent is the one that they say good night to every night, a parent is the one that puts the bandage on a boo-boo, a parent is the one that holds them when they just want to be loved, a parent is the one that made their giant 6th birthday cupcake, a parent is the one that has made the sacrifices to make their child's life the best thing in this world! A parent is the one that goes to parent-teacher conferences, a parent is the one taking them to their soccer, gymnastics, little league, dance, football games, practices and competitions. A parent is the one that helps them with their homework and makes sure that it is done every night before bed. A parent is the person they see all the time and know them as mom and dad. Not the person that doesn't call, talk, or see their child grow from day to day. The truth is from the start you never wanted to be a parent. Why keep acting as though you are or want to be?

You were never meant to be a parent because you never wanted to be one. Don't think that you're a parent because you gave some genetics to make a child. All you really are is a donor and nothing more. Unless you truly try to be in your child's life you have no title, you are no parent.